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May the real me meet the real you.”
I came across that phrase recently, and I said to myself … “a lot of us have not even met our REAL SELF.’’
And the REAL in most of us may not be as desirable…except it’s HEALED.
When the layers (through which others define us) are stripped…the SELF that remains isn’t always a reality that most of us will be proud to own.
I once said these words to someone… “be prepared to become an enemy when you can no longer fund that friendship.’’
Having a generous nature doesn’t always mean ‘throwing money around.’
Generosity isn’t only expressed through monetary gestures.
Generous souls also touch lives through their time, attention/presence and efforts (towards humanity)…generally.
Sometimes, being quick with money (especially when it comes to how you relate with others) is often a disguised ‘cry’ for acceptance, importance and love.
So, some people deploy money to get these emotional responses from others.
A caring person is that someone whose support (physical or emotional) is felt…when it matters.
Don’t conclude that whoever is quick with ‘money’ towards you is ‘caring or loving.’
He/she could be all that but there is also a possibility that you are saddled with a soul who feels so undesirable, unlovable, unimportant…that money is used to curry all that.
Deep down…they know or assume that money is WHY most people are in their space.
And it makes them feel low – a lot of the time.
I once met someone that I considered ‘cold’.
He was jilted by the wife that he relocated abroad with their kids.
He often said to me “my dream now is just to make so much money. And when I am finally ready for marriage, I will go for a lady that is half my age.’’
When we realise that a lot of the attributes that we have come to define people by are actually a smokescreen for deep insecurity, loneliness and dejection, we will understand why that man/woman who seems so driven could have something else (e.g. vengeance, fear of rejection, esteem issues, etc), besides ‘excellence’ – as the motivation.
A worrisome trend- which seems enabled by the Church… especially when people are told to tap into certain blessings…by giving specified amounts of money.
GOODNESS TO HUMANITY is what actually attracts goodness/blessings into anybody’s life.
Something as abstract as peace of mind, joy, fulfillment, etc. is a BLESSING!
These are some of the emotions that can fetch you good health, a happy life and even longevity.
Not the ‘‘give to receive (double) from God’’ narratives.
God cannot be arm-twisted!
If you are yet to be blessed with a child, rather than give money for miracles, take a child off the streets; offer him/her a better life with your resources.
Approach life with the acceptance of your reality and begin to confront your fears and worries, in earnest.
‘Giving/Charity’ is what you do out of concern for humanity and NOT for your ‘issues’ to go away!
Even the kind of prayers that one is inclined to, can unmask the REAL SELF…
An insatiable soul, favours the prayer of ‘more and more’ prosperity.
A fearful soul can’t even contemplate any prayer that is not ‘casting and binding’ whatsoever and whoever.
A covetous soul ‘taps’ into EVERY reason for everybody’s smile or happiness.
Do you know that if marriage is to be done for what it truly is…a lot of married persons will be unmarried?
Unless one meets the REAL SELF, the tendency to dabble into ‘life changing’ settings for the wrong reasons will remain high.
Beyond the cover of marriage, a lot of people can’t imagine what they have to do with their REAL SELF…if that encounter happens.
Marriage habours a lot of façade, really.
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